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TIPSS 4 Hero Protective Moms- Ask PMA

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PMA International has launched a new series called”TIPSS 4 Hero Protective Moms – Ask PMA”. 

 Once a month,  PMA International will share with our members/supporters on our official PMA International Facebook page, commonly asked questions and concerns about family court abuse, domestic abuse and personality disorder issues. Parenting tips for children of all ages whose families have been affected by the above will also be a topic of conversation. 

Emphasis on peer support and drawing from our wide range of experiences on these issues is our goal. PMA International will encourage all our members and supporters to offer their insights and opinions to each situation addressed.

We are confident as this series continues you will gain knowledge, hope and discover the Protective Mother Hero within yourself and each other.

~ The PMA International Team

(We start the TIPSS series in June 2016. You may send your questions in a FB message on our FB site until further notice,link below)

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Disclaimer:

TIPSS 4 Hero Protective Moms- ask PMA Does Not Get Involved In Personal Custody Cases and cannot give advice/ legal advice, on personal custody cases, as we are not attorneys.


The information from this series is not intended to serve as legal advice or as a guarantee, warranty or prediction regarding the outcome of any particular legal matter.


If you have a legal problem, seek professional legal counsel.


TIPSS 4 Hero Protective Moms- ask PMA is based on opinions and experiences only and is not meant to serve as a substitute for legal advice from a qualified professional.

For your safety, we strongly suggest you do not use any identifying information about yourself, your minor child or your legal issues.
PMA International reserves the right to edit both submissions and responses for your safety and safety of your minor child.

 

 

PMA International Thanks You

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PMA International continues on our journey establishing ourselves as being an innovative , instrumental and groundbreaking leader in the Mothers Movement. PMA International leads the way in these areas;

1. The first organization to be international
2. The first organization to use Facebook for advocacy on family court issues
3. The first organization to use the term DV by Proxy- Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), is a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior by an abuser parent with a history of domestic violence intimidation and control. This abuser parent uses the child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. This is done by manipulation and lies teaching the child to hate the targeted parent. This process is further fueled by the child’s traumatic bonding to the abuser parent.
4. The first organization to have a blog talk radio show dedicated to this issue
5. The first organization to have a no abuse zone policy
6. The first organization to combine Art with Advocacy  with our original PMA projects such as Love Letters to Our Children, Unstoppable Mothers and Lundy’s original play about family court issues.
7. The first organization to use Pinterest for advocacy on family court issues.
8 The first organization led by a group of protective mother-driven advocates.
9. The first organization to recognize and promote Protective Mothers as heroes

10. The first organization to recognize and promote the teaching of critical thinking skills to our children for protection from DV By Proxy.

And, of course, the only organization co- founded by Lundy Bancroft, including his participation and full stamp of approval.

For the few who do not know who Lundy Bancroft is, please read all about him here;

http://www.lundybancroft.com/homepage/lundy-bancroft

PMA International is all this and so much more. Thank you to our members, Leaders and Administrators for your support in making PMA International a forward- thinking groundbreaking, organization for change. We will continue to move forward in unique and creative ways. We will continue to be innovative and think “outside the box” to raise awareness and bring positive change to family court abuse and corruption. We love and support you and your precious children…. Always

PMA International …. A family of advocates

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Using The Internet Safely, While Advocating For Your Personal Custody Case

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unnamedPMA International always has safety as our leading priority. In light of this, PMA international will not release personal information and/or personal custody information about protective mothers and their children who are in active litigation. PMA International will not sponsor, endorse or support any event or activity that is engaging in the above due to the risk involved.( The only excepts to the above is at the discretion of PMA International’s Co-Founders and/or Executive Director Janice Levinson and Lundy Bancroft). PMA International advises protective mothers to be extremely cautious in revealing any personal custody details along with personal information about themselves and their children on the internet. Doing so, might prove to be very risky to you and your children’s personal safety and the outcome of your case.

Some safety tips for protective mothers to consider before deciding whether or not to reveal case details and personal information on the internet especially if you are in active litigation;

1. Posts on the internet create a historical footprint of you name and your child’s name which is very different if not impossible to remove.

2. Once your post is made public you have no control over who reads and shares your information.

3. Once your children become older they will most likely come across this information and this may affect your relationship.

4. Once older, your children’s peers will most likely come across this information and this may impact their friendships. In addition, this action may create your children being targets for bullies.

5. If you post personal details about your court case your judge and other court officials involved may read it and this might be used against you. Even if you post your information with the best of intentions, this does not mean court officials will see it the way you do.

6. You must be certain not to post your location or any information that could allow your abuser to find you or your children.

7. Do not use locator and map applications on face book and phones.

8. Be aware of pictures posted online that could reveal your location.

9. Caution your friends not to tag you in anything online that might reveal your location.

10. We all know when abusers are exposed the abuse escalates. Be careful about posting online custody information and personal details that could escalate abuse and endanger you and your children.

11. Be cautious and do your research on anyone asking for your personal and custody information. Also be very cautious with whom you decide to entrust your personal and custody information.

PMA International is an advocacy organization and we are not trying to discourage you from advocating for your personal custody case. We support protective mothers advocating for themselves in creative and cautious ways as to not endanger, themselves, their children and risk the outcome of their case.

The PMA International Team

Welcome To Protective Mothers’ Alliance International

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WELCOME TO PROTECTIVE MOTHERS’ ALLIANCE INTERNATIONAL( PMA Intl. )

Protective Mothers Alliance International(PMA INTL). is an international protective mother-driven organization that includes a global network of like-minded organizations working as a team for positive change. Protective Mothers Alliance International (PMA) is co founded by Lundy Bancroft and Janice Levinson, with Janice Levinson as Executive Director. The PMA INTL family consists of protective mother-driven advocates working together as a tight team for change. PMA INTL is working toward bringing about dramatic reform in family court for protective mothers and their children. PMA INTL. advocates for change through education, community and media outreach and other creative strategies that may be effective and beneficial. PMA INTL. supports the efforts of protective mothers in keeping themselves and their children safe from the abuse of a former partner, and in empowering these mothers to become advocates for themselves and others. PMA INTL. has several networks/groups including but not limited to: Man Up for Moms ((M.U.M), Hear us NOW!! ( H.U.N) Healing and Prayer, STOP DV by Proxy. PMA’s very successful blog talk radio shows had over 6 thousand listeners. PMA INTl’s blog entitled: “The Guardian of Truth” continues to be an effective vehicle for education about family court abuse. Protective Mothers Alliance International has launched a gold ribbon campaign in an effort to reunite protective mothers and their children who have been separated by the family court.We invite all advocates and their allies around the globe to wear gold ribbons, to symbolize the effort that protective mothers and their allies are making to reunite children with their moms.
Please join us in supporting this campaign. ” The beautiful memories that we have of our beloved children are golden and can NEVER be erased from our hearts and minds”

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PMA International’s specialty is working with abused mothers and their children who are dealing with family court injustice. This does not mean that we have an agenda against men, or that we are anti-father or that we are blind to the fact that some women and mothers can be abusers too.
When Janice Levinson and Lundy Bancroft created PMA International, there were many groups helping fathers but very few helping abused mothers in family court. Janice and Lundy created PMA International to be an organization that consists of volunteer protective mothers because they saw a need, and decided to step up and help abused mothers and their children. Creating an organization of protective mothers who advocate for positive change in family court also speaks to both Lundy and Janice’s background, expertise and personal experiences. Because PMA International is a group of protective mothers and because of our vast collective experience with family court, DV, and personality disorder issues, we are very specialized in the work we do.

Disclaimers:

Disclaimer regarding contacting PMA International;
PMA International is inundated on a daily basis with e mails and Face book messages . Although we love to hear from our valued members, please keep in mind, that PMA INTL is an all volunteer organization. The PMA INTL Administrative Assistants do their best to respond to each and every inquiry, but we find that most questions are very similar. In light of this , included on this official PMA International web page/ blog, are detailed explanations about;
1. PMA International, what we do and do not do.
2. PMA International’s mission statement
3. PMA International’s disclaimers
4. Step by step explanations on how to join PMA International
5. A suggestion list of helpful professionals dealing with family court issues

From this point forward we will still try our best to answer all questions. But because of the great volume of e mails and messages we receive we can no longer guarantee questions asked that have already been answered on this official PMA International website/ blog or on our official PMA International FB page will also be answered through e mail or Face book. If you contact us via email and/or Face book , and do not receive a response, chances are your question has already been answered on our website/ blog and/or our official FB page.
Please carefully read this website/ blog and FB page to learn more about PMA International. Thank you for your understanding in this matter.

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PLEASE READ BELOW;

General Disclaimers:

IMPORTANT: PMA INTL DOES NOT GIVE LEGAL ADVICE. The information on this website/blog is not intended to serve as legal advice or as a guarantee, warranty or prediction regarding the outcome of any particular legal matter. If you have a legal problem, seek professional legal counsel.

PMA International is an advocacy organization. We Do Not Get Involved In Personal Custody Cases In Any Capacity and cannot give advice/ legal advice, on personal custody cases, as we are not attorneys. There are many reasons why PMA International does not give advice on your personal custody case. Most importantly, if you have a good attorney that you trust, he/ she knows the specifics of your case in ways we could not. Your best and most accurate advice ( legal or practical) tailored to your specific situation would come from your attorney. We would be reluctant to give advice that may unintentionally lead you down the wrong path since we do not have all the information necessary to responsibly give said advice.

Due to the sensitive nature of the work that we do, PMA has a professional security team and a small group of attorney’s who protect our organization and our protective mothers/advocates.

PMA International is an advocacy organization, NOT a service organization for protective mothers, at this time. Since we are not a service organization, we do not offer on site, local protective mothers’ support groups, but suggest moms research low cost professional counselors in their area or specialists in PTSD, trauma or DV counseling. In our experience, protective mothers have better results turning to professionals, educated and licensed in this specialty, for healing as opposed to fellow protective mothers who are equally in need of healing and support.

In light of the fact that we are not a service organization-for security reason and per their request- we DO NOT direct people who contact us,to our state or international leaders as they are not set up to work with other protective moms by getting involved in their personal cases.( Please refer to our mission statement). Our
leaders, go through an extensive security check by our security team. Please note; the safety of PMA International’s protective mother/advocates and their children is our priority.

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PMA International always has safety as our leading priority. In light of this, PMA international will not release personal information and/or personal custody information about protective mothers and their children who are in active litigation. PMA International will not sponsor, endorse or support any event or activity that is engaging in the above due to the risk involved. PMA International advises protective mothers to be extremely cautious in revealing any personal custody details along with personal information about themselves and their children on the internet. Doing so, might prove to be very risky to you and your children’s personal safety and the outcome of your case. Please read the below link for suggestions on using the internet safely while advocating for your personal custody case.

https://protectivemothersallianceinternational.org/2014/06/04/using-the-internet-safely-while-advocating-for-your-personal-custody-case/

Disclaimer for Protective Mothers/Advocates and supporters who are participating in our various projects on this site;

You alone are responsibly for the protection of your identity along with the protection of the identity of your minor child while using this site. PMA Intl assumes no responsibility for the protection of your identity and/or safety and the identity and/or safety of your minor child/ children. We reserve the right to edit all posts for any reason.
Persons posting on this site are solely responsible for abiding by their specific court orders. PMA INTL is not responsibly for direct, indirect, incidental or consequential damages resulting from a person posting on this site who is not in compliance with an order from the court.

 Important Disclaimer ;

PMA International reserves all copyright, trademark, patent, intellectual and other property rights in the information contained in PMA International’s “Unstoppable Mothers Campaign.” and ” Love Letters For Our Children Campaign”This includes but is not limited to, all PMA International and PMA International’s “Unstoppable Mothers’ and” Love Letters To Our Children” specific logos and services logos and no express or implied license is granted in respect thereof. Any unauthorized access, use or reproduction of the information or proprietary rights contained in this site about these campaigns is strictly prohibited and is subject to such action as provided in applicable laws. No information on this PMA International’s “Unstoppable Mothers Campaign” and ” Love Letters For Our Children ” Campaign should be reproduced or distributed for another organization’s or individual’s campaign or advocacy use, without the prior written consent of PMA International. The Information is for your personal use only.

Any unauthorized copying or modification of trade-marks and/or the contents of the PMA International “Unstoppable Mothers “Campaign and ” Love Letters To Our Children” Campaign for another organization’s or individual’s use, including but not limited to, art, art exhibits, all manner of advocacy, written materials,and all manner of social media may be a violation of any law that may apply to trade-marks and/or copyrights and could subject the copier to legal action.

Images and links from  all PMA International  venues , including but not limited to this website/blog and all PMA International campaigns including but not limited to ” Love Letters To Our Children” and ” Unstoppable Mothers” may be used only in a social media/blog content and only when provided that full and clear credit is given to PMA International and said campaigns with appropriate and specific directions to original content.

For information about helping PMA INTL advocate for family court reform please visit the link below

Please be advised; The link below describes the only official, revised and updated, guidelines for joining PMA International. Any additional postings on any other site about this issue is outdated, null and void, and does not apply.
Thank you.

https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/protective-mothersadvocates-interested-in-joining-pma-international-the-process
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For a list of professional services for protective mothers dealing with family court abuse and corruption, please visit the link below. Please note the disclaimer on that page.

https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/professional-services-for-protective-mothers-pma-international-list-of-suggestions/

Thank you in advance for your understanding and cooperation in these matters.

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PMA INTERNATIONAL’s” NO ABUSE ZONE” Policy

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You have just entered a PMA INTERNATIONAL NO ABUSE ZONE:

• PMA International stands strong on a zero tolerance approach to any type of abuse. We recognize that you cannot negotiate , work together in peace and harmony , come together in unity with abusers or those who support or enable abusive behaviour . PMA International recognizes that there are different types of abuse and abusers are not gender specific.

• PMA International is dedicated to creating a safe, supportive, abuse free environment for our family of advocates as we work together to fight family court abuse and corruption.

• PMA International is committed to treating those we work with, with kindness, respect and professionalism at all times.

• PMA International remains open to working with other organizations and advocates that share our philosophy.

• PMA International stands strong on unity within the mothers movement and desires to work with other organizations and advocates that have a history of zero tolerance of abuse regardless of gender and organizations and advocates that have a history of treating others with kindness, respect and professionalism.

• PMA International reserves the right to dismiss anyone within our organization with any history of or current abusive behaviour.

• PMA International reserves the right to refuse to work with any organization or advocate with a history of or current abusive behavior. This includes organizations and/ or advocates with a history of working with, promoting and supporting the above.

UNSTOPPABLE MOTHERS

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Welcome to PMA International’s Unstoppable Mothers

Protective Mothers Alliance International (PMA) has launched Unstoppable Mothers, a powerful photo and essay project to give voice to Protective Mothers and their Children.

The photos depict the loss and grief a Protective Mother experiences when she is forcibly separated from her child(ren) due to family court injustice, or the events she missed in the life of her child.

The essays, in Protective Moms’ own words, are common real life family court situations. Protective Mothers reveal the most outrageous action a judge took in their case. OR, the Protective Mom shares what she has missed most about not being in her child’s life.

How Can You Participate?

Protective mothers may send their quotes to the comment section on this PMA International official website/ Blog. A specific page on this PMA International website/ blog has been set up just for this project.
https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/unstoppable-mothers/

You may also send your quotes to the comment section of our new Unstoppable Mothers blog devoted specifically to this Unstoppable Mothers Campaign.
https://unstoppablemothers.wordpress.com

All signs, quotes, and pictures will be posted on the Unstoppable Mothers’ special page within the “Guardian Of Truth” Blog, and our new Unstoppable Mothers” blog devoted specifically to this Unstoppable Mothers’ campaign

https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/unstoppable-mothers/

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PMA International will put the Unstoppable Mother’s quote on a sign and take a picture for the project.

Some signs with quotes will be combined with missed milestone pictures taken by PMA International’s talented protective mothers, highlighting their creativity and photography skills.

Some feedback about “Unstoppable Mothers'” photo and essay project;

“Beautiful photography by talented PMA protective mothers, coupled with heartbreaking real life stories of loss in the mothers’ own words. Another stunning PMA Intl. project to raise awareness. TY Janice, Lundy and all the PMA moms!!”
G.S

“Participating in this project was very empowering and gave me hope”
S.C

“Thank you for capturing a protective mother’s powerful story through her own words and beautiful pictures .”
M.J

“Thank you for giving us moms a voice along with gorgeous visuals from talented protective mothers.”
K.R

” Powerful”
J.S

Now that we all understand how to participate and what the ground rules are for this project, Protective Mothers’ Alliance International invites you into our project; a window to our world. We ask you to brace yourselves, step slowly into our shoes,  carefully take a step , steal a tiny glimpse , and taste a tiny bite of what life is like as a protective mother. An unstoppable protective mother, enduring one of the darkest atrocities known in the history of our civilization.

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https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/unstoppable-mothers/

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LOVE LETTERS TO OUR CHILDREN

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PMA International’s Mothers/Advocates are working heart-to-heart and hand-to-hand with PMA INTL’s Network Hear Us Now!! ( H.U.N) to educate and communicate the deep love a mother has for her child. Our intention is to help the moms express their deep devoted love for their children, and help strengthen the mother/child bond, moving their relationship forward in a loving and positive way. This page is for protective mothers to express their love for their children.

Look at our beautiful Face Book event wall filled with love! ( link below)

Our collective mother hearts shout out to the heavens and aim straight towards our children’s hearts with beautiful words filled with tenderness, devotion and deep, powerful love.

Create an original letter or poem for your child. If you are not part of this important PMA International event, please join us.

Our blog reaches around the world, all over the internet and has over 50 thousand hits and is growing every day. Your words of love to your child will pass the test of time and remain on the internet, for all to see.

How powerful and sweet is a mothers love! A bond that no person or court can deny. Keep posting moms, keep touching hearts with your powerful words of love. You are all beautiful heroes and PMA INTL loves and supports you and your precious children, always.

Here is an example of a beautiful, and touching letter and poem from one of our protective moms to her precious child;

Letter;
© J. L. D
No parent who loves their child, who wants to be with their child, who isn’t a threat to their child, who never abused their child, nor intentionally harmed them, should have their child ripped from them senselessly, unjustly, and to be then alienated from their child, in some cases, so severely, as though they have died, and to be left with having to beg for any knowledge or glimpse of their child, hoping and waiting on any scraps that *might* be tossed their way.

I am one mother who is exhausted from trying to cope with the knowledge that there are people so evil who carry out such cruel, evil injustice, and from having to implore the takers, the hostage holders, and their cohorts and other connected persons, of my own child, for something, anything, because something, anything, no matter how minuscule, is better than nothing at all. Facing more often than not, the abject rejection, of denial, so often given, with utter silence.

Poem;
I Knew You First – © J. L. D

Before you were born, I knew you
As you grew inside me, my womb held you
You heard my voice, you heard my heart beat
I felt the flutter as you moved, and kicked with your tiny feet

Before you were born, I knew you
I had dreams, hopes, and plans for you
I sang to you, prayed for you, longed for us to meet
You my son, I your mother, forever yours to keep

I knew you first, since before you were born,
And I have loved you, and will, always, forever more.

Please Visit our Love Letters To Our Children Word Press Blog;
https://loveletterstoourchildren.wordpress.com

Please Visit our Love Letters To Our Children page;
https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/love-letters-to-our-children/

Please also join our “Love Letters To Our Children ongoing Facebook event ( link below)
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https://www.facebook.com/events/597929206912196/

Leave a legacy of love for your child.

Protective Mother and Child Reunion: Gold Ribbon Campaign, Bring Our Children Home!

Protective Mother and Child Reunion:
Gold Ribbon Campaign

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“The beautiful memories that we have of our beloved children are golden and can NEVER be erased from our
hearts and minds”

PMA International is promoting our ongoing Gold Ribbon Campaign in an effort to reunite protective mothers and their children who have been separated by the family courts. We encourage all advocates and their allies around the globe to wear gold ribbons, to add gold ribbons to your social networking profile picture, to display a gold ribbon on your car or any other method you are legally able to do so. This is to symbolize the effort that protective mothers and their allies are making to reunite children with their protective moms. Together we can raise awareness and make a difference. Much love PMA International.

To grab PMA International’s Gold Ribbon Campaign Badges for your social network profile, follow the links below;

http://www.picbadges.com/Community/5471ddddaa30b9aa17e31482

https://www.picbadges.com/community/5614deb6844a9d423a19eb3e

https://www.picbadges.com/Community/5471e786aa30b9aa17efdce9

PMA International continues to grow! If you want to join our fast growing family of advocates, as a PMA member/ supporter please visit our link below
https://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/protective-mothersadvocates-interested-in-joining-pma-international-the-process/

You may also contact Gayle Summer PMA International’s Executive Administrative Assistant @ gaylesummer@gmail.com.

Lundy Bancroft Takes a Strong Stand Against Abusers Within The Mothers’ Movement

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Thank you Lundy!. We love and support you back!
Please Read; IMPORTANT MESSAGE FROM LUNDY

Defending A Women’s Rights Activist Who Is Under Attack
NOTE: This post is about some of the internal dynamics of the national movement fighting for the custody rights of abused women (also referred to as “protective mothers,” because they are in the position of needing to protect their children from the other parent, but family courts are not permitting them to do so). If this issue doesn’t interest or affect you, or if you get triggered by news about infighting, I encourage you to skip this post. But for those of you who are involved in the custody issue, it’s important to know about the attacks on activists that are happening.
For over a decade I have been one of the leaders in the international effort to secure full human rights for protective mothers and their children. There is no cause that remains as close to my heart day in and day out.
I am writing in response to the ongoing controversy on the web regarding the Protective Mothers Alliance (PMA), a grassroots advocacy organization that I helped to co-found and that is directed by Janice Levinson. I have been following the claims that have been made about PMA and about Janice; specifically, I have had the opportunity to review communications that have been shared between Janice and other individuals, and to see some of the extremely negative postings that have been made. In my opinion, the attacks that have been made on Janice and on PMA have to be called out for what they are: vicious, dishonest, threatening, and dehumanizing written assaults on a committed advocate and survivor, one who has worked tirelessly for the interests and rights of protective mothers and their children.
There are a number of sources of these attacks, but they come overwhelmingly from Claudine Dombrowski and the American Mothers Political Party (AMPP). I am not relying on Janice’s word in forming this conclusion; I have looked at many postings by Claudine and AMPP, and they are cruel, irresponsible, and outrageous. And they don’t stop; in fact, they’re getting worse over time.
Moreover, Claudine and AMPP have begun to attack a significant number of other protective mothers and their allies as well, with similar viciousness. The predictable effect of the movement’s reluctance to denounce this behavior is that it is growing and spreading.
To make sure that there is no doubt or confusion, I want to state that I give my wholehearted support to PMA and Janice Levinson. PMA has been an important and exciting development in the custody rights movement, and Janice Levinson’s work in organizing protective mothers has been excellent. I have found her to be a person of the highest integrity and commitment, combined with a deep commitment to treating participants with fairness and respect. Although she has been accused of various things, I cannot find a shred of truth to any of these accusations, and none of the accusations come from any source that I find in any way credible.
The accusations that have been made about PMA have been insulting and derisive in their tone, and have involved outright fabrications about the organization and how it works, and about Janice herself. There have also been accusations that Janice’s work is not actually associated with me, which is as bizarre as the other attacks. The attackers have used gutter language, have put up photos of Janice, and have written what can only be interpreted as threats against her. These behaviors serve to further discredit those who are making claims about PMA. These behaviors appear to come from just two or three disgruntled individuals who were angry about the appropriate requirements that the PMA structure involves, and who chose to retaliate in harmful and divisive ways.

Now for the most important part of this letter:
Claudine Dombrowski and AMPP are doing severe damage to the custody rights movement. Whatever their intentions may be, the actual effects of their actions is only to strengthen the position of the abusers. I have known of a number of individuals who have dropped out of the movement and/or who have declared that they won’t come to the BMCC anymore because they can’t stand the infighting and accusations, which are almost all traceable to the same few sources. I therefore have decided today — after viewing the latest round of unbelievable psychological assaults on Janice (see, for example, janicelevinson.blogspot.com, a blog that was created just to attack and humiliate Janice) — that I am taking the following stands:
1) I will not participate in any event or campaign that Claudine Dombrowski or AMPP are officially connected to.
2) I will not attend any event where Claudine and AMPP are present unless the organizers of the event have done everything in their power to keep them from attending.
3) I won’t work on any projects or collaborate with anyone who has worked with Claudine or AMPP in the past unless they now publicly and visibly denounce her actions.

I have waited some four years to take these steps, but now I regret that I waited so long. We cannot fight against the power and actions of abusers, and of the courts that enable them, while we remain silent and acquiescent in the face of severely abusive of treatment of our own allies.
Whatever divisiveness may result from drawing a line that places Claudine Dombrowski and AMPP outside of the custody rights movements will be far less than the divisiveness and other damage that are resulting from our failure to draw that line. So the movement needs us to take this stand.

But there is an even more important reason to take this stand, which is that it’s the right thing to do.
I ask that you not stand by quietly and allow Janice to be dragged through the mud. Please look at the attacks that have been made on her (and at the lack of any similar behavior coming from her). And then please inform everyone in your networks that you are denouncing the behavior of Claudine and the AMPP and that you do not intend to have them be part of the custody rights / protective mothers movement.
You can also help by complaining to Google about the hate-oriented website created against Janice, by going to:
https://support.google.com/blogger/answer/82111?id&url
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The Mothers’ Movement’s Dirty Little Secret: Abusers Within

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PMA INTL. STATEMENTS:

PMA INTL wants to be very clear that other protective mothers are being targeted for abuse by the same individuals targeting PMA INTL. This is NOT just about PMA INTL but about protecting all protective mothers from abusive advocates within the Mothers’ Movement.

PMA INTL wants to be very clear that there is no” bickering, ” “in fighting”,” arguing” “war” or any other word that might imply mutuality about this AMPP issue. This is a common misconception about this sad situation. This is a very clear case of abuser and target This is the epitome of cyber bullying. PMA never responds in kind to these attacks, PMA in no way initiates these attacks. Understand these attacks have been going on for four years. PMA does not create hate sights targeting protective mothers for abuse. Abusers wishing to escape responsibility for the abuse perpetrated on their victim put out this misleading language. Has PMA RESPONDED a few times to defend and correct the libel put forth? Yes, we have; a few times. But for the large part we have remained silent on the issue and there is no proof of us responding in kind. This is a VERY IMPORTANT distinction that must be made. Also; because of PMA’s no abuse zone policy we do not work with abusers. This is why we do not work with AMPP and supporters/ colleagues We are in a movement FIGHTING abuse,( all forms of abuse) not CONDONING it.You cannot “negotiate” with an abuser, you cannot “bridge the gap” with an abuser; Moms have you tried to do this with your exes? How did this work out for you? We must be careful not to use the same language and mind set about the dynamics of abuser and victim as the family courts have used on us to excuse the abuse and the abuser. We must be careful not to victim blame. We must not be hypocrites as our credibility depends on us ” walking our talk” As moms we have already experienced this victim blaming with our abuser exes and family court. We must learn from our experiences and not continue the pattern and the cycle of abuse.

Hearing an accusation about PMA, Janice or Lundy ? ASK THE ACCUSER FOR PROOF if you want to know the truth. Please do not accuse anyone without proof. Gossip is dangerous. Currently, several Protective Mothers are being abused ( not just PMA), with libel and cyber bullying. Some “advocates” in the movement are supporting the abusers by promoting and working with them , staying silent, victim blaming, excusing their abuse, attempting to silence victim’s voices and more. Please stand up for what is right. Do not stay silent ASK FOR PROOF. Tell the abuser to stop!!! Hold abusers accountable. Help protective moms from being re-victimized. If you are a new protective mom looking to join a group be very very cautious, as certain advocates and groups may not be what they appear to be.
Some tips for your safety
1. Look for a no abuse zone policy posted on their website. But look for PROOF of adherence to this policy by investigating the contents of their past posts.
2.Look into past posts to see if they supported AMPP or Claudine
3. If so, look to see if a post denouncing AMPP and Claudine’s behavior was or is posted anywhere.( per Lundy’s request )
If you do not see proof of above be cautious in believing their rhetoric and be very cautious in giving out your personal info to them.A little bit of work in looking back on the advocates/ groups’ history of posts on the internet can go a long way in protecting yourself, your family court case, and your children along with keeping you and your family safe.
For further information on safety tips for protective moms please visit our post ( link below)

https://protectivemothersallianceinternational.org/2014/06/04/using-the-internet-safely-while-advocating-for-your-personal-custody-case/

Let’s treat each other with kindness, respect and love. Protective Mothers’ have been through so much. Best to you all, and Thank you for your support. Stay safe.

Wounded Healer/ The Series

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All content provided for PMA International’s Wounded Healer series is for informational purposes only. This content does not represent the PMA International organization as a whole or its members/supporters, state chapter leaders, international leaders, administrators, professional supporters and co-founders. PMA International makes no representations as to the accuracy or completeness of any information in the Wounded Healer series or found by following any link in the Wounded Healer Series. The responsibility is yours alone on how this information is used. IN NO EVENT SHALL PMA International BE LIABLE FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, PUNITIVE, OR CONSEQUENTIAL DAMAGES OF ANY KIND WITH RESPECT TO THE informational material on the site.

What is a Wounded Healer?
A Wounded Healer is someone volunteering or working in the healing profession who is helping others but bleeding from their own wounds while they help.

According to Carl Jung the psychiatrist; a wounded healer must go through their wound. He explains that To go through our wound is to embrace, and say “yes” to the mysteriously painful new place in ourselves where the wound is leading us. Going through our wound, we can allow ourselves to be re-created by the wound. Our wound is not a static entity, but rather a continually unfolding dynamic process that manifests, reveals and incarnates itself through us, which is to say that our wound is teaching us something about ourselves. Going through our wound means realizing we will never again be the same when we get to the other side of this initiatory process. Going through our wound is a genuine death experience, as our old self “dies” in the process, while a new, more expansive and empowered part of ourselves is potentially born (wikipedia).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wounded_healer
To read more Wounded Healer;The Series Part 1
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Wounded Healer; The Series Part 2
As protective mothers we all know how difficult holidays, birthdays and other traumatic events can be .Since holidays are just around the corner PMA International protective moms have put together some helpful tips on self care specifically tailored for these occasions

Tools to Empower You on Anniversaries of Traumatic Events;
To read more about these tools to empower you from Wounded Healer; The Series Part 2
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Wounded Healer; The Series / Part 3
In this part of our Wounded Healer series we will begin to explore the various alternative healing modalities. Some of these healing modalities have not been scientifically proven, yet some people have found them helpful. As with all alternative therapies, please use discretion and common sense. Seek the advice of a qualified professional if any questions arise. Always only do what makes you feel comfortable. We will start our exploration of alternative healing modalities with Color therapy or Chromatherapy.
To learn more about Chromatherapy from Wounded Healer; The Series Part 3
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To learn how to cut energetic negative cord connections to other people
Click on the link below

https://protectivemothersallianceinternational.org/2014/07/14/2928/

Wounded Healer; The Series / Part 4
In this part of our Wounded Healer series we will begin to explore the healing benefits of aromatherapy and essential oils. What is aromatherapy? How does aromatherapy work? and what are some common uses of aromatherapy, from relaxation to the use of essential oils to freshen and clean a microwave.
https://protectivemothersallianceinternational.org/2015/11/04/wounded-healer-the-series-part-4/

Wounded Healer; The Series/ Part 5

Working with Nature to Help Heal;

In this part of our Wounded Healer series we will begin to explore the healing benefits of nature.

How the Simple Act of Being in Nature Helps You De-Stress by CHRISTINA HEISER/

NBC News

If you’re anything like us, chances are you spend way more time inside — tapping away at a computer and hunched over your phone — than you do basking in the greenery. But with Earth Day upon us and temperatures warming up as summer nears, consider becoming a little more one with nature. After all, it does have some pretty neat health benefits.

Why Going Outside Is Good for Your Mind, Body and Soul

“Being outdoors is generally associated with activity, and being physically active keeps joints loose and helps with chronic pain and stiffness,” says Jay Lee, M.D., a physician with Kaiser Permanente in Highlands Ranch, Colorado.

Plus, when you exercise outside (whether you go for a hike, run or opt to do something else), you have to disconnect from your phone — and that allows you to focus on yourself and what you’re doing, says Francis Neric, senior director of certification for the American College of Sports Medicine.

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How to Heal through Nature by Tim Brieske, MD/

The Chopra Center

A wonderfully nourishing practice to heal through nature is to bring our awareness both to our five senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch) and to the five great elements that, according to Ayurveda, comprise the physical universe: space, air, fire, water, and earth. Finding time each day to direct attention toward our senses in the context of the five great elements (known in Sanskrit as the mahabhutas) allows us to more fully appreciate our lives. Since our mind-body system is a unified, indivisible manifestation of nature, giving our attention and appreciation to this experience allows balance and healing to emerge.

Here are some suggestions for awakening nature’s healing power in your bodymind.

Step 1: Establish a meditation practice. Quieting the mind, intellect, and ego in a state of restful awareness allows you to enter the realm of soul, beyond thought and form. As your practice matures, your level of consciousness will expand and you’ll have an experiential knowledge that you’re an inseparable part of the universe. You will start to become more aware of the opportunities and lessons the universe is presenting. In addition,  you become more open to healing – in whatever form that may take.

Step 2: Each day, consciously awaken.  Consciously practice opening your eyes, and other senses, as my colleague Libby says when ending meditation at the Chopra Center, “as if for the first time.”  Pretend you are from another part of the universe and everything you are sensing is new. As you practice being a silent witness, do you observe things, both internally and externally, that you haven’t noticed before?

Step 3: Spend some time in a natural environment, preferably outdoors.  If you’re unable to go outside, find a position of comfort, close your eyes, and consciously visualize walking in a natural setting.
How much detail can you bring to the experience?  Can you visualize yourself healing or healed?  How slowly can you take in your surroundings to most fully appreciate everything in your environment?   You may want to try a walking meditation, moving as mindfully as possible, with no thought of a destination or goal . . . just walking and paying attention to the world within and the world without.

Step 4: Whether you’re outside or visualizing, become aware of each sense while bringing attention to each of the five elements.  For example, you might use your sense of sight to visualize the night sky, searching for stars, planets, and satellites.  You could then find yourself watching how the wind moves clouds, branches, and leaves.  Watching water move downstream, gently caressing the cobbles lining its bed, may be soothing.

One of my personal favorites is observing sunlight through a prism as the light is resolved into its component wavelengths and the intense beauty of the visible spectrum is revealed.  Looking at the earth and its formations through new eyes that appreciate its dynamic nature may be both expansive and grounding.

Spend time contemplating each sense in a similar fashion, treating your ears, nose, mouth, and skin to a wide variety of the sensory delights that nature so abundantly provides.

Step 5: Write about the emotions, feelings, and ideas that come to mind as a result of this exercise.  At the Chopra Center we have found journaling to be very useful in the art and process of healing.  It gives each of us the opportunity to clarify our thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

Step 6: Witness the healing effects of this practice on yourself, community, and planet.  Ayurveda teaches us that we are made up of three bodies.  The physical body is composed of the environment, our personal body, and life energy.  The subtle body is composed of mind, intellect, and ego.  The causal body is composed of the personal, collective, and universal soul.  Because all aspects of our being are actively interacting with all other aspects of the universe, practices promoting healing extend beyond us, to others in our environment.  In this way our actions are like a ripple effect in that the wave of healing energy propagates and others may benefit.

Step 7: Celebrate!  Express gratitude for this extraordinary, remarkable privilege of existence.

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http://www.chopra.com/articles/healing-through-nature#sm.0001qq80781keeu1ton195mww4hq4

 

Nature’s Healing Effects on Your Body & Your Mind by Jennifer Edwards/

The Huffington Post

As we head further into summer, take advantage of local forested areas; you may do more than simply stretch you legs and breathe fresh air. A Japanese study, released by the University of Kyoto and published in Public Health, entitled, ‘Psychological effects of forest environments on healthy adults: Shinrin-yoku (forest-air bathing, walking) as a possible method of stress reduction‘ describes a link between walking in forests and reducing chronic stress.

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This idea is gaining recognition and was discussed in the New York Times Health Section this week. Most people find a walk in the woods relaxing, but apparently this practice not only quiets the mind, but stimulates the physical relaxation response and our immune systems. Findings of this study concluded,

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-edwards/natures-healing-effects-o_b_640887.html

 

Let us know how you work with nature to heal or any other healing techniques that work for you in the comments below.

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April 24, 2017 at 3:49 am

Jodi Picoult Quote Love Letters To Our Children

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April 23, 2017 at 10:44 pm

HEART TORN IN TWO BY M.R.M (POETRY)/ Love Letters To Our Children

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Though I didn’t know you, still you grew a part of me, suddenly aware of the child within, wondering Who would you be like and how would you react…
as years gone by colored by the lies you were told, when would that truth I knew as fact unfold?
First it was my body that surrounded you so close, then it was my womb that protected you with every battered dose,
I crawled on hands and knees to try and get away, from the biological co-creator who kicked, slapped and strangled me.
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It wasn’t myself for whom I was concerned, it was the unborn child who may never know just how much hate their mother had to endure.
Did it make me strong, or was I too weak to be bold? The depths of despair of a woman pregnant with new life, only tears of fear that threatened daily that scared wife.
So whatever it is I didn’t tell you, this you must know, It was your life that saved mine with every hit I took, and I’m so very sorry for all the horrors that horrid man I call a crook.
Think what you want but someday you shall see, God gave me you, despite the violent abuse against me.
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Forever my Love goes on and my heart is torn in two, simply because of your resentment for my doing whatever I knew how to do.
Surviving is not thriving, and freedom was a fight, every day I think of you and forgiveness is my plight.
I left that man who bruised every part of who I was, and now I live to shout and fight for what is noble and what is right.
You my dear child I cry for in the middle of each night.
With Love yesterday, today and every tomorrow, Your Mom xoxo
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April 23, 2017 at 7:14 pm

So Many Abused Women and Children Are Being Failed By the Family Courts/Huffington Post

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This blog is written by a survivor of domestic abuse. Her identity has been withheld to protect her and her children

That first day in the family courts was one of the worst of my life. I was standing in the courtroom, a stern-looking district judge on high. And the man who’d repeatedly raped me, assaulted me, threatened my life and our children’s lives, standing just a few feet away. No protection measures in place – nothing.

The judge ordered us to sit, and for nine hours I was subjected to his barrister accusing me of being a vindictive, hysterical wife, alienating her poor ex-husband and poisoning her young children’s minds against their father. This set the stage for future court appearances – only this time, I would be cross-examined by my ex.

 

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April 23, 2017 at 7:11 pm

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Take Back Your Life; Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias

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One important factor to keep in mind is that abuse does not have to be physical.In many cases it may be verbal or emotional. This seemingly less severe abuse often leads the victim to doubt her reaction because she is not being physically attacked and may not be able to explain the abuse to herself or others. Margaret Singer used to call ths the “gaslight effect”

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Family cults are where the head of the family uses excessive persusion and control techniques to keep the family functioning as he sees fit…These small cults and cultic abusive relationships tend to be more intense on their effect on the individual member than the larger group cult for the simple reason that all the

attention-and abuse- is focused on one or several persons often with more damaging consequences. Also women are primarily the victims in these relationships…..Most people do not like to think of their family as a cult, and they will rationalize away inner suspicions or fend off criticisms or observations by relatives  and friends.

One important factor to keep in mind is that abuse does not have to be physical.In many cases it may be verbal or emotional. This seemingly less severe abuse often leads the victim to doubt her reaction because she is not being physically attacked…

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Happy Easter

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Love to all Protective Mothers this Easter/ Passover From PMA International; WE Shall Overcome!

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Happy Easter and Passover to all Protective Mothers, Protected Children and Their Supporters. You Have PMA International’s Love and Support, Always.

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This is for all the Protective Mothers with empty arms and hurting hearts who are missing their children every second of every day, but who are deeply hurting today – Easter and Passover. Know that no matter what, you ARE your children’s mother. No one -and certainly no court- can take away this God-given role in your children’s lives. Please know this in your heart. PMA INTL loves and supports you and your precious children now and forever.

” We shall Overcome”

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