Protective Mothers' Alliance International

family court abuse/corruption

Take Back Your Life; Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias

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Family cults are where the head of the family uses excessive persusion and control techniques to keep the family functioning as he sees fit…These small cults and cultic abusive relationships tend to be more intense on their effect on the individual member than the larger group cult for the simple reason that all the

attention-and abuse- is focused on one or several persons often with more damaging consequences. Also women are primarily the victims in these relationships…..Most people do not like to think of their family as a cult, and they will rationalize away inner suspicions or fend off criticisms or observations by relatives  and friends.

One important factor to keep in mind is that abuse does not have to be physical.In many cases it may be verbal or emotional. This seemingly less severe abuse often leads the victim to doubt her reaction because she is not being physically attacked and may not be able to explain the abuse to herself or others. Margaret Singer used to call ths the “gaslight effect”

..An  abused partner must submit to the following abuses and/or behaviors:

Early verbal, physical and/or sexual dominance

Fear arousal and maintenance

Guilt induction

Contingent expressions of “love”

Enforced loyalty to the agressor

Promotion of powerlessness and helplessness

Pathological expressions of jealousy

Hope instilling behaviors

isolation/imprisonment

Required secrecy

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

May 16, 2011 at 7:19 am

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  1. Very informative. Great posting X

  2. Reblogged this on Protective Mothers' Alliance International and commented:

    One important factor to keep in mind is that abuse does not have to be physical.In many cases it may be verbal or emotional. This seemingly less severe abuse often leads the victim to doubt her reaction because she is not being physically attacked and may not be able to explain the abuse to herself or others. Margaret Singer used to call ths the “gaslight effect”


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