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9/11 and Domestic Violence/ by Ben Atherton-Zeman September 9, 2011 at 7:57am

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by Ben Atherton-Zeman on Friday, September 9, 2011 at 7:57am

 

 

 

Both 9/11 and domestic murders have claimed thousands of lives.  Over 3000 victims were killed in the September 11 attacks – about 2000 victims/year are killed in the United States by their intimate partners.

Both were results of terrorist attacks – 9/11 from Al Quaeda, domestic murder from “domestic terrorists.”  Both kinds of terrorists use fear, violence and intimidation to get what they want.  But Al Quaeda terrorists are vilified, while domestic terrorists are often called “pillars of the community.”

Our country’s response to each has been completely different.  We responded to 9/11 with the war in Iraq – hundreds of billions of dollars.  We responded to domestic murder with funding the Violence Against Women Act and other federal legislation – hundreds of millions of dollars.

Why the disparity?

What’s the difference between the victims of 9/11 and the victims of domestic murder?

One is gender – many more men kill their wives and girlfriends than vice versa.

But I think the main reason for the disparity is victim-blaming.

Nobody blames folks for going to work in the Twin Towers that day.  But every day, people blame the victims of domestic abuse for the violence perpetrated against them.  People say, “I wouldn’t let anybody do that to me,” not realizing the implication of blame for those who stay with abusive spouses and partners.  People ask “Why doesn’t she leave?” instead of “Why is he abusing her?” and “What can we do to help?”

I’ve had the honor of knowing people who responded to each.  Ground Zero workers, people in the United States military who fought on behalf of our country.  Advocates for domestic violence survivors, volunteers and staff at shelters for battered women.  All heroes – all underpaid and overworked.

As the 10th anniversary of 9/11 arrives, our country will honor those who lost their lives on that day.  We will honor those who worked at Ground Zero afterward.  We will honor those who are serving in uniform.

But let us also take this opportunity to realize that we’ve spend 1/1000th of our country’s resources on stopping domestic violence, than we have on the war in Iraq.  Let us question why these victims of intimate terrorism get less sympathy than the victims of Al Quaeda terrorism.  Let us honor advocates for victims of domestic violence, just as we honor our women and men in uniform. 

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