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Healing From Narcissist Abuse

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Excellent article on narcissists. Originally posted on Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD ~ A journey to healing from complex trauma.
( link below)

http://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2013/09/26/recovery-from-narcissistic-abuse-is-slow-and-painful/

Narcissists thrive only for themselves. They are completely self motivated, feel entitled to everything they want to do, have no compassion and no remorse. They lack empathy completely.

Narcissists and sociopaths, operate in similar ways.

They use you as prey.

They get close to you, build up your trust, mimic your emotions, take full advantage of your vulnerability, get you on your own, build a relationship where you begin to need them and depend on them.

They groom you and are highly clever at this.

They are emotional vampires, and narcissists are dangerous, abusive people.

Then once they are done with you, or you leave them, it all changes.

The narcissists worst nightmare is being exposed.

They will resist this at all costs, lie, deceive, deny and manipulate those around them, they will act outraged at what you are doing to ‘them’ and if all else fails, will manipulate those around them into believing they are the victim.

Not once in all of this, do they actually care about their ‘supply’.

All the fake emotions they have shown, all the words they used to ‘reel you in’, all the ‘I love you’s’ and ‘I care deeply about you’ and ‘I want to help you’s’ , were all fake, they didn’t mean a word of it.

Once exposed, you see their real motives and their real feelings about you.

Then, they are hot on the pursuit of ensuring no-one believes their ‘supply’ and will set out with the help of their supporters, to make you seem crazy, or a liar, or evil.

All along, they have no concept of the fact that they have ripped your heart out, stomped all over it and the pain you are left in.

They have no empathy for the hurt they caused, just a complete sense of entitlement, complete lack of insight, complete lack of courage to face what they have done.

And complete lack of love, care, compassion or empathy.

It takes a long time to recover from narcissistic abuse and it’s so hard for many victims to just watch them carry on enjoying their lives, whilst the victim grieves, is confused, is hurt and cannot understand how they can do this, after all they had said and done.

It’s so hard for victims to understand how they were not loved at all, just used and abused, chewed up and then spat back out of the devils mouth and left to deal with all the hurt and pain and deal with others who now believe a whole pack of lies too.

Recovery is slow and painful, especially when it is multiple narc/sociopath abusers and especially when the abuse is still raw.

Recovery includes grieving, twice.

Grieving the person you thought they were who you loved and believed loved you too and then grieving the real person they are, the narc, who never cared and used you as supply, with no remorse.

Matt 7:6 Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

I will never forget this verse.

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

June 16, 2014 at 3:47 am

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  1. What really infuriated me is how easy they get to replace you. There’s always someone replying positively to his charming personality. In my case, I found my spouse cheating on me with a man and that triggered the breaking up. I confronted him. His world crash into tiny pieces. He never apologized. When I told him our marriage was broken, he said nothing. So I made my own plans and left him without warning. I just said I was going to spend the week-end with a friend. that she knew what I was going through and was visiting me. I also gave him a big hug and cried on his shoulder because I loved him. He hugged me back, there were tears in his eyes. Only I knew this was my GoodBye hug. Later, he found out and had an episode of grieving for a week. He asked many of our friends and family if they knew where I was, who helped me. that he had called me but I never replied. If he would have paid attention to me, he would have found me easily bit he didn’t. So, I was lost from him. I filed the divorce. He never, ever called me or respond my e-mils, calls or text messages suggesting him to file the divorce. Only once, I got a nice text saying he’s praying for me and family, as always and will continue to do so, as well as his statement that he does not hate me. Also, he already move a lover of his into our previous home. If this is the male I knew about or other one, I don’t know, nor I care less. the worst for me was accepting that everything I believed was true and authentic, never existed….it was just a big lie.

    Jeannette Waechter

    May 29, 2015 at 6:37 pm


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