WHEN HE CLAIMS IT NEVER HAPPENED/ Lundy Bancroft -Based on an entry from “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That: Encouragement for Women Involved With Angry and Controlling Men”
One of the most crazy-making acts by abusive men is when they outright deny major things they have done to you. Hundreds of women have told me of times where the abusive man has asserted angrily, right to her face, that he never said those horrible things to her, or that he didn’t hit her, or that he didn’t do other terrible forms of abuse to her that she can remember perfectly well. Sometimes he even turns the tables and asserts that she was the one who did those things to him, or claims that she is simply making up his other acts of abuse or violence.
If this has been done to you, you probably end up going through some times of wondering if the abuse is all just in your head. But it’s not! You aren’t imagining things! Denying his acts right to your face is a very common tactic used by abusers, and it’s a serious form of psychological assault. Hang on to your sanity by keeping faith in your knowledge of what’s real.
[Based on an entry from “Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That: Encouragement for Women Involved With Angry and Controlling Men” (Berkley Books)]