Protective Mothers' Alliance International

family court abuse/corruption

Author Archive

Happy 4th Hero Protective Moms- We love you

leave a comment »

PMA International- Hero Protective Moms

with one comment

 Protective Mothers are Heroes. You have our love and support, always

 

Happy Father’s Day To The Good Dads/ Janice Levinson Protective Mothers’ Alliance International Executive Director/ Co-founder

with one comment

Screen Shot 2014-08-19 at 8.21.58 PM

 

What Makes A Good Dad????

I posed this question to our PMA International Protective Moms, Advocates, Administrators, Leaders, and Members. We came up with the following list:

Note: this list also applies to dads no longer in a relationship with the mother of their child/children

1. Any dad who supports the mother of his child/children emotionally, physically, and financially.

2. Dads who teach their child/children by words and actions to respect their mothers and women in general.

3. Any dad who sets an example for his child/ children that his family is always his priority.

4. Dads who stand firm as a role model for his child/ children of honesty, integrity, dependability, and kindness.

5. Dads who are available for their families emotionally and physically.

6. All dads who role model for their child/children positive work ethics.

7. All dads who discipline in a firm, yet fair and loving way.

8. Dads who are concerned for the safety of their child/children and their child/ children’s mother.

9. All dads who know how to disagree with respect and without violence or abuse of any kind.

10. Any dad who teaches his child/children that it is ok to make mistakes and points out his mistakes as an example.

11. All dads who embrace the washing machine and diaper changing.

12. Any dad who knows how to find the kitchen.

13. All dads who comprehend, appreciate and respect the challenges women and mothers face in our world today.

14. Any dad who knows how to tolerate and even pretend to enjoy a trip to the mall, theme park, children’s’ concert etc. with his family.

15. Dads who can demonstrate that family time is more important than his favorite sports event.

16. Any dad who can be a good listener and a strong consistent shoulder

17. All dads who are not afraid to get silly.

18. Dads who embrace water fights, pillow fights and up -all- night sleepovers.

19. Any dad not afraid to sing, dance, and play on the floor with his child/children

20. Dads who play dress up and have tea parties

Add to our list in the comment section. We would love to hear your thoughts.

We at PMA International honor “The Good Dad” on this Father’s Day.

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” ~ David O. McKay

 

Screen Shot 2017-06-18 at 10.45.50 AM

 

pma_logo_world

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

June 18, 2017 at 6:16 pm

The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture

leave a comment »

Dating Tips for the Feminist Man

The opposite of masculine rape culture is masculine nurturance culture: men* increasing their capacity to nurture, and becoming whole.

The Ghomeshi trial is back in the news, and it brings violent sexual assault back into people’s minds and daily conversations. Of course violence is wrong, even when the court system for handling it is a disaster. That part seems evident. Triggering, but evident.

But there is a bigger picture here. I am struggling to see the full shape emerging in the pencil rubbing, when only parts are visible at a time.

A meme going around says ‘Rape is about violence, not sex. If someone were to hit you with a spade, you wouldn’t call it gardening.’ And this is true. But it is just the surface of the truth. The depths say something more, something about violence.

Violence is nurturance turned backwards.

These things are connected, they must be connected. Violence and nurturance are two sides of the same coin. I…

View original post 6,220 more words

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

June 5, 2017 at 7:05 pm

Posted in Uncategorized

Happy Memorial Day

with one comment

Screen Shot 2017-05-30 at 1.45.53 AM

Screen Shot 2017-05-28 at 10.26.52 PM

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

May 30, 2017 at 8:13 am

Posted in Holiday, Uncategorized

Tagged with ,

Happy Mother’s Day

with one comment

This is for all Hero Protective Mothers but especially those with empty arms and hurting hearts who are missing their children every second of every day. We understand that you are deeply hurting this weekend- Mother’s Day weekend. Know that no matter what, you ARE your children’s mother. No one -and certainly no court- can take away this God-given role in your children’s lives. Please know this in your heart. PMA INTL. celebrates you, Protective Mom, and deeply understands the unconditional love and heroic sacrifices you have made to protect your children from abuse and harm. You are modern day heroes, and PMA INTL strongly believes that you will go down in history as such. PMA INTL loves and supports you and your precious children now and forever. You are always in our hearts. Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day To all Hero Protective Moms and supporters. You have our love and support.

 

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

May 13, 2017 at 7:45 pm

5 Damaging Lies We Learn From Narcissistic Parents/ Huff Post

leave a comment »

The effects of childhood trauma, including emotional neglect or abuse in childhood, can have alarmingly potent effects on our psyche as we enter adulthood, even to the extent of rewiring the brain (van der Kolk, 2016). The children of narcissistic parents, those who meet the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder, know this all too well, having been raised by someone with a limited capacity for empathy and an excessive sense of grandiosity, false superiority and entitlement (Ni, 2016). Children of narcissistic parents are programmed at an early age to seek validation where there is none, to believe their worthiness is tied to the reputation of their families, and to internalize the message that they can only sustain their value by how well they can ‘serve’ the needs of their parents. They have lived an existence where love was rarely ever unconditional, if given at all.

This is not to say that childhood survivors of narcissistic abuse cannot rise above their childhood conditioning; in fact, they can be stronger survivors and thrivers as a result of the resilience they are capable of developing and the ways in which they channel their traumas into transformation (Bussey and Wise, 2007). It takes real inner work and bravery to unravel the traumas that we’ve had to endure as children as well as address any retraumatization as adults. Being able to understand our relationship and behavioral patterns, as well as any negative self-talk that has arisen as a result of the abuse, can be revolutionary in challenging the myths and falsehoods we’ve been fed about our worth and capabilities.

As children of narcissistic parents, we often learn the following from a very young age:
To read more follow the link below

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/5-damaging-lies-we-learn-from-narcissistic-parents_us_586608e7e4b068764965c0ff?ncid=engmodushpmg00000003

Written by protectivemothersallianceinternational

May 12, 2017 at 7:39 pm

%d bloggers like this: