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Elodie My Fight against parental alienation

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Disclaimer: 
As PMA International has posted before, we prefer the term DV by Proxy to explain the manipulations an abuser parent uses to teach the child to reject the protective parent. We prefer this term because;

1. In our opinion ,it more accurately depicts the actions taken by the abuser parent towards the child
2. There has been a lot of misinformation about parental alienation circulating the internet and beyond.

3.The term parental alienation and /or parental alienation syndrome has been use as a legal defense for abusive dads in family court.

Most often this term has been used by the attorneys of dads who sexual abuse their children. This legal defense is used – most often- by attorneys in family court , for the purpose of deflecting blame from the criminal actions of their client onto the protective mother.


4. The result of the above has frequently been, abusers winning custody due to this misuse of the term.


Because the term is so emotionally charged for protective mothers, and for all the reasons above, we feel DV by Proxy is a better choice. Please keep in mind others still use the term Parental Alienation. Since PMA International did not author this piece, the term parental alienation or alienation may be used.

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March 19, 2015 at 8:02 am

The Most Important Performance Of The Grammys Wasn’t Even Music. It Was This Woman’s Moving Speech./ Upworthy

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This article was originally posted on Upworthy by Angie Aker ( link below)
http://www.upworthy.com/the-most-important-performance-of-the-grammys-wasnt-even-music-it-was-this-womans-moving-speech?g=2&c=ufb1

The goosebumps I got when I watched this live… So many of us know a domestic violence or rape survivor, or are one ourselves. This moment in popular culture was a huge win for all of us.

Read the beginning of her speech below:

“My name is Brooke Axtell, and I am a survivor of domestic violence. After a year of passionate romance with a handsome, charismatic man, I was stunned when he began to abuse me. I believed he was lashing out because he was in pain and needed help. I believed my compassion could restore him and our relationship. My empathy was used against me. I was terrified of him and ashamed I was in this position. What bound me to him was my desire to heal him. My compassion was incomplete because it did not include me. When he threatened to kill me, I knew I had to escape. I revealed the truth to my mom, and she encouraged me to seek help at a local domestic violence shelter. This conversation saved my life.”

Thank you, Brooke Axtell.

Of course, while it’s great that the Grammys gave such a massive platform to an issue this important during the show and not during a commercial break (I’m looking at you, NFL), the moment was not without some hypocrisy. Many people on Twitter were quick to point out that Chris Brown, R. Kelly, and Eminem — all of whom have a history of violence against women — were nominated for awards this year.
On the bright side, at least they had to sit in the audience and hear her message. We can only hope they’ll finally listen. And maybe next year, the Grammys won’t be quite so hypocritical. Words are great, but they’re even better when backed up by action. Because when the president says #ItsOnUs, Grammys, that includes you.

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February 10, 2015 at 6:51 am

The First-Ever Super Bowl Ad To Address Domestic Violence And Sexual Assault

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February 1, 2015 at 8:38 pm

Meredith Vieira Breaks Her Silence on Abusive Relationship

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http://www.nbcnews.com/watch/nightly-news/meredith-vieira-breaks-her-silence-on-abusive-relationship-330443843551

THIS DEBATE OVER THE MESS IN THE NFL IS GOING ON ACROSS THIS COUNTRY WHEREVER PEOPLE GATHER. THAT INCLUDES SOCIAL MEDIA. ON TWITTER IT GOES BY THE HASH TAG, WHYISTAYED WHERE WOMEN TALK ABOUT WHY THEY HAD DIFFICULTY LEAVING AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. THE STATS ARE ONE IN FOUR WOMEN WILL EXPERIENCE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THEIR LIFETIME. ONE IN FOUR. TODAY, A MEMBER OF OUR OWN NBC FAMILY SHARED A PAINFUL STORY OF HER OWN. AND MEREDITH VIEIRA’S POWERFUL WORDS ARE BEING CREDITED FOR THE ATTENTION THEY BRING. WE GET THE STORY FROM OUR NATIONAL CORRESPONDENT KATE SNOW.
IT’S VERY, VERY COMPLICATED ISSUE, SO I WANTED TO EXPLAIN TO YOU WHY I STAYED. I WAS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP MANY, MANY YEARS AGO AS A YOUNG WOMAN —
Reporter: IT WASN’T AN EASY STORY TO TELL.
I LOVED THIS GUY. IT STARTED OUT WITH WE WOULD HAVE A FIGHT AND HE’D SORT OF GRAB MY ARM. AND, YOU KNOW, I DIDN’T THINK A LOT ABOUT IT. AND THEN IT TURNED INTO PUSHING ME AGAINST THE WALL. AND THEN IT WENT BEYOND THAT TO ACTUALLY TAKING HIS HAND AND GRABBING MY FACE AND SAYING I COULD RUIN YOUR CAREER IF I WANTED TO AND NO ONE WOULD WANT YOU.
Reporter: MEREDITH VIEIRA SAYS SHE STRUGGLED TO SHARE INTIMATE PERSONAL DETAILS.
THEN THERE WAS THE NIGHT — WE SHARED AN APARTMENT. AND HE THREW ME INTO A SHOWER NAKED IN SCALDING WATER, AND HEN HE THREW ME OUTSIDE INTO THE HALLWAY. AND I HID IN A STAIRWELL.
I THINK THERE ARE A LOT OF MYTHS OUT THERE THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ONLY HAPPENS TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM, WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY BUNK. AND THE FACT SHE’S GOT THIS PHENOMENAL LIFE NOW, GREAT RELATIONSHIP AND A PHENOMENAL CAREER, I THINK GIVES SURVIVORS HOPE THAT YOU CAN GET PAST THIS.
Reporter: THE LAST TIME DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HAD SUCH A SPOTLIGHT WAS THE O.J. SIMPSON CASE.
PICKED HER UP, THREW HER AGAINST THE WALL.
Reporter: ANN, WHO WORKS WITH SURVIVORS IN CHICAGO, HOPES THIS MOMENT IS EVEN BIGGER.
I HOPE IT’S MORE THAN A MOMENT, HONESTLY. I THINK THAT THE AVAILABILITY OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND HASHTAGS AND FACEBOOK IS HELPING TO REACH PEOPLE WHO MIGHT NOT OTHERWISE BE REACHED.
BY ALL MEANS, TELL SOMEBODY WHAT’S GOING ON. LET SOMEBODY KNOW.
Reporter: IT’S NOT SO EASY TO JUST GET AWAY, VIEIRA SAID

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September 18, 2014 at 4:40 am

Molly McGrath Tierney / Rethinking Foster Care TEDxBaltimore 2014

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Excellent- Standing ovation – TED talk by Molly McGrath Tierney about rethinking foster care.
Molly McGrath Tierney is the Director for the Baltimore City Department of Social Services, managing the City’s child welfare and public assistance programs. Over the past six years, she has led a massive reform effort to dramatically improve the impact of services to vulnerable citizens of Baltimore. Molly’s work is considered a national model for modern social services.

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