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Asheville, N.C., Sept. 9, 2016 – Seth Willis Pickering stabbed his 6-year old daughter Lila to death in front of two park rangers along the Blue Ridge Parkway. When arrested, he said, “Now they will never be able to take her away from me.. She’s happier now.. it’s what she wanted.”
Pickering was involved in a custody dispute with ex-wife Ashley Pickering. Ashley left the relationship because he was abusive towards her. Ashley, who now lives in Florida, was fighting in the courts for the return of her daughter, “I went to leave and a cop was supposed to send Lila with me, and he didn’t, and I’ve been fighting with the courts and DSS.” Ashley claims that Lila was soon to return to her care.
Lila was placed in protective custody with the Buncombe County Department of Health and Human Services (DHHS) after being removed from her father’s care, due to his violent behavior towards another woman. Lila was placed with a local family, who she knew well. The family offered to take the child in to avoid foster care. Pickering was allowed supervised visitation.
On September 9th, Lila was picked up at the home by her father, without permission, and taken to a remote camp site. Park rangers discovered Pickering with Lila, and before they could intervene, he has stabbed her to death.
Pickering is charged with first degree murder.
Lila Pickering is described as being a happy child with a beautiful smile who nickname was “Rescue Ranger” because she was willing to help anybody. Lila would have celebrated her birthday on October 1st, there will be a celebration of her life at the local elementary school where she attended. A Go Fund Me has been created by the family to help raise money for funeral expenses.
Cindy Dabil, Lila’s grandmother says Child Protective Services in Florida and in North Carolina should have done more to protect Lila. She hopes Lila’s tragic death will serve as a call to action to better protect children from abuse, and to make changes to improve the safety of children living in state care
CHESTER COUNTY, Pa. — Wesley Webb was fighting with boyfriend Keith Smith in their home in Schuylkill Township, Pennsylvania, when she decided to start recording the argument. What she ended up recording was her own murder, police say. Webb, 40, told Smith she would leave with her two children — three kids, all under age…
THIS DEBATE OVER THE MESS IN THE NFL IS GOING ON ACROSS THIS COUNTRY WHEREVER PEOPLE GATHER. THAT INCLUDES SOCIAL MEDIA. ON TWITTER IT GOES BY THE HASH TAG, WHYISTAYED WHERE WOMEN TALK ABOUT WHY THEY HAD DIFFICULTY LEAVING AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. THE STATS ARE ONE IN FOUR WOMEN WILL EXPERIENCE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THEIR LIFETIME. ONE IN FOUR. TODAY, A MEMBER OF OUR OWN NBC FAMILY SHARED A PAINFUL STORY OF HER OWN. AND MEREDITH VIEIRA’S POWERFUL WORDS ARE BEING CREDITED FOR THE ATTENTION THEY BRING. WE GET THE STORY FROM OUR NATIONAL CORRESPONDENT KATE SNOW.
IT’S VERY, VERY COMPLICATED ISSUE, SO I WANTED TO EXPLAIN TO YOU WHY I STAYED. I WAS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP MANY, MANY YEARS AGO AS A YOUNG WOMAN —
Reporter: IT WASN’T AN EASY STORY TO TELL.
I LOVED THIS GUY. IT STARTED OUT WITH WE WOULD HAVE A FIGHT AND HE’D SORT OF GRAB MY ARM. AND, YOU KNOW, I DIDN’T THINK A LOT ABOUT IT. AND THEN IT TURNED INTO PUSHING ME AGAINST THE WALL. AND THEN IT WENT BEYOND THAT TO ACTUALLY TAKING HIS HAND AND GRABBING MY FACE AND SAYING I COULD RUIN YOUR CAREER IF I WANTED TO AND NO ONE WOULD WANT YOU.
Reporter: MEREDITH VIEIRA SAYS SHE STRUGGLED TO SHARE INTIMATE PERSONAL DETAILS.
THEN THERE WAS THE NIGHT — WE SHARED AN APARTMENT. AND HE THREW ME INTO A SHOWER NAKED IN SCALDING WATER, AND HEN HE THREW ME OUTSIDE INTO THE HALLWAY. AND I HID IN A STAIRWELL.
I THINK THERE ARE A LOT OF MYTHS OUT THERE THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ONLY HAPPENS TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM, WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY BUNK. AND THE FACT SHE’S GOT THIS PHENOMENAL LIFE NOW, GREAT RELATIONSHIP AND A PHENOMENAL CAREER, I THINK GIVES SURVIVORS HOPE THAT YOU CAN GET PAST THIS.
Reporter: THE LAST TIME DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HAD SUCH A SPOTLIGHT WAS THE O.J. SIMPSON CASE.
PICKED HER UP, THREW HER AGAINST THE WALL.
Reporter: ANN, WHO WORKS WITH SURVIVORS IN CHICAGO, HOPES THIS MOMENT IS EVEN BIGGER.
I HOPE IT’S MORE THAN A MOMENT, HONESTLY. I THINK THAT THE AVAILABILITY OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND HASHTAGS AND FACEBOOK IS HELPING TO REACH PEOPLE WHO MIGHT NOT OTHERWISE BE REACHED.
BY ALL MEANS, TELL SOMEBODY WHAT’S GOING ON. LET SOMEBODY KNOW.
Reporter: IT’S NOT SO EASY TO JUST GET AWAY, VIEIRA SAID
This article was originally posted on Lovefraud
5 reasons why we fall for con artists
We discover that our romantic partner is a complete and utter fake.
The proclamations of love, the stories of his or her past — nothing was true. All the money that our partner desperately needed — or promised would buy a life of luxury for the two of us — well, that evaporated into expensive and unnecessary toys, or a secret life with one or more other lovers (targets).
When it finally sinks in that we’ve been conned, the first question we ask of ourselves is, “How could I have been so stupid?”
Followed by, “Why didn’t I see this coming?”
Feeling like chumps, we come down really hard on ourselves. But we aren’t the only ones who are blind to the social predators living among us — our entire society is blind.
The fact that millions of sociopaths live among us is like a giant skeleton in the closet of the human race that nobody wants to talk about. This sets us up to be victimized.
Sociopathic con artists take advantage of this collective and individual blindness. With the skill that comes from practicing their craft from a very young age, they manipulate our empathy and emotions. They use us to accomplish their objectives du jour, whatever they may be.
So here’s why we end up in romantic relationships with sociopathic con artists:
Reason #1 – We don’t know sociopaths exist
Most people think sociopaths are all criminals and deranged serial killers — this isn’t necessarily true. Social predators live among us, and most of them never kill anyone. Still, these people have no heart, no conscience and no remorse.
The numbers are staggering. Lovefraud uses the term “sociopath” to cover all social predators — people who would be clinically diagnosed as being antisocial, psychopathic, narcissistic or borderline. If you add up the official estimates of people with these conditions, perhaps 12% of the population — 37 million people in the US — have personality disorders that make them unsuitable to be romantic partners.
And we, as a society, don’t know it.
Reason #2 – We believe people are basically the same
In the United States, from the time we are small children, we are bombarded with messages about fairness, equal opportunity, giving people a chance and tolerance. In school, we learn that we’re all created equal. In church, we learn that we’re all God’s children.
As a result, we believe all people are basically the same, there is good in everyone, and everyone just wants to be loved. Unfortunately, there is a segment of the population for which this simply is not true.
Sociopaths view the world as predators and prey — they are the predators, and everyone else is prey. They are not motivated by love; they are motivated by power and control. These people pursue romantic relationships not for love, but for exploitation.
Reason #3 – Humans are lousy lie detectors
Research shows that people can identify a lie only 53% of the time — not much better than flipping a coin.
All those signs that are supposedly giveaways that someone is lying — like looking away, failing to make eye contact — well, they simply don’t apply when a sociopath is doing the lying.
Sociopaths are expert liars. They spend their whole lives lying. They feel entitled to lie. They lie for the fun of it. In fact, there’s a phenomenon called “duping delight” — sociopaths get a thrill out of staring right into their targets’ eyes and pulling the wool over them.
People who are not liars never see it coming.
Reason #4 – Sociopaths hijack the normal human bonding process
Trust is the glue that holds society together. Trust is so important to the human race that it is programmed into our biology.
A hormone called oxytocin is released in our brain and bloodstream whenever we feel intimacy — emotional or physical. Oxytocin then makes us feel calm, trusting and content, and alleviates fear and anxiety. Nature created this process to make people want to stay together to raise children.
When sociopaths target us for romantic relationships, they either spend a lot of time building what seems to be trust, or they rush us into emotional, physical or sexual intimacy. Either way, they get the oxytocin flowing in our brains, which makes us trust them. They keep piling on the intimacy, and we, to our detriment, keep trusting.
For more information, read Oxytocin, trust and why we fall for psychopaths, on Lovefraud.com.
Reason #5 – The betrayal bond makes it difficult to escape
Once the love bond is in place, the sociopath does things that create fear and anxiety in us — like cheating on us, or taking more and more money.
Contrary to what we might expect, instead of driving us away, this actually makes the bond we feel with the sociopath stronger. It becomes a betrayal bond — a powerful bond that we feel with someone who is destructive to us.
We want desperately to return to the heady experience of the beginning of our involvement, which was filled with what we believed was love and affection. We keep waiting for the sociopath to make the situation right.
But he or she never does. The exploitation continues.
Betrayal bonds are highly addictive and difficult to break. That’s why we stay in the relationship far longer than we should — until we can no longer escape the fact that we’ve been conned.