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Happy August Birthday Month Arianna( A Birthday Wish From a Protective Mom To Her Beloved Daughter)/ Love Letters To Our Children

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Happy August Birthday Month Arianna( A Birthday Wish From a Protective Mom To Her Beloved Daughter)/ Love Letters To Our Children

© K.A 2016 Love Letters To Our Children

Happy Birthday month

My Beautiful Arianna!!!

Mommy Loves you more than the Sun & the Moon!!!

You are my shining star!!

 

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Always Love You (Mother’s Day Song) – Tori Kelly Original

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Love to all the Mother Heroes from PMA International

Mothers Belong With Their Children… NOT In Jail

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Watch: Tears of joy as Navy mom comes home!/ HLN

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http://www.hlntv.com/video/2015/03/23/carolina-navy-mother-surprise-daughter-homecoming?hpt=hln10_1

Navy mom Catherine Kelly was stationed in Bahrain for 6 months
Her daughter Brianna has been staying with relatives
Brianna, 5, was overwhelmed recently when her mom showed up at her Conover, North Carolina, elementary school after serving six months in Bahrain.

“It’s been rough, being away from your family members, especially your kids,” Navy mom Catherine Kelly tells CNN affiliate WSOC. “[You’ve] got to think that you do this for your family and it’s your job.”

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March 25, 2015 at 7:56 am

“Mommy You Came Back! ” Mother and Children Reunited

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“Mommy, you came back!”. Sending love and light to this family, and asking for many more reunions like this:

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June 28, 2014 at 9:54 am

Common Responses After Losing a Child (for Protective Moms)/ E. J Perth PMA INTL. USA Regional Director, Healing & Prayer Network Administrator

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A list of common responses/reactions after losing a child in a family court proceeding

I feel it is important to distinguish the loss and being related to family court proceedings because often times the process involves factors that re-traumatize the family and prolong any possibility of stabilizing the family. In essence, there is a distinct type of grief that follows losing a child due to unjust proceedings that villify a parent trying to protect their children.

Mothers who loose their children in family court proceedings often experience (and report):

* Character assassination and/or emotional abuse of the mother (who may be labelled as having “Parental Alienation Syndrome” or “Malicious Mom Syndrome”)

* Minimizing past abuse and its affects/Minimizing the current danger

* Legal proceedings that deny a mother of her legal rights

* Feeling threatened or coerced by court personnel

*Expensive legal or court costs, often resulting in severe financial hardship (I have heard of mothers losing their home and being forced to work several jobs, in which their contact with their children becomes even more limited)

* Re-traumatization

* Inability to protect children combined with valid concerns the children may still be in danger

* Children forcibly removed from the home (a majority of these mothers were primary caregivers)

* Mothers denied contact with children–these children are oftn abruptly, and without warning removed from their homes, their community, their friends and any connection to the mother

* Mothers being compelled into supervised visitation to see children, and may be exposed to other abusers (I have actually heard of a woman who took the bus to supervised visitation, and was stalked by an alleged abuser when leaving the premisis)

* Inability to get help or support for herself. Mothers may have their medical and psychological records subpoened by the court and/or their abuser, in which she degraded or labelled based on the findings and then forced to “prove” she is a fit mother. Mothers may also become isolated because they feel others do not understand their situation. It is common for people to feel overwhelmed hearing these stories and then to be unable to provide support. The financial depletion caused by family court may also limit a woman’s ability to seek help. Not to mention the woman may be so overwhelmed that she does not have the energy to get the help she may need.

* DV by Proxy ; the abuser manipulating the children, or using them in ways to hurt, intimidate or harass the mother (Ie using children to send messages to the mother, telling the children false information about the mother, threatening to harm the children, threatening to take the children, etc..)

Mothers who loose their children in this way often experience:

* Physical Illness (including but not limited to headaches, ulcers, vomiting, fatigue and exhaustion)

* Anxiety/Panic Attacks

* Depression

* Guilt/Shame/ Self-Blame, particularly around issues that they failed or could not protect their children

* Flashbacks (The court proceedings may trigger memories of abuse, or legitimate fears)

* Binge Eating and/or Lack of Appetite, Nausea

* Insomnia

* Shock (A combination of all these factors, feeling numb, unable to perform daily tasks, feeling as if she is living in a fog, lack of memory/concentration, tremors/trembling, hot flashes etc)

* A surge of emotion/adrenaline

* Hyperventilating

* Post Traumatic Stress

* Avoidance (Especially around areas that remind them of their children. It would be common to even avoid social places and friends)

* Withdrawl

* Anger

* Fear

* Fits of Crying — There are often triggers. (When I lost my child, I remember avoiding the grocery store because I would pass my child’s favorite treats, think of my child, and start to cry. It got to the point where I could not even remember what I wanted in the grocery store because I was so upset.)

* Memory Loss/Concentration Difficulties

THIS DOES NOT MEAN THE MOTHER IS MENTALLY ILL OR UNSTABLE, these are typical responses to the loss of a child in combination with the extreme stress of being involved in family court proceedings that are perceived as unjust, and which a mother has no control over. It takes time to work through the grief and emotions of losing your child, and being involved in family court proceedings–these response may emerge and change as the mother processes what has happened.

I found it helpful to be part of a domestic violence group, hosted by a battered women’s shelter. The group is confidential and does not keep records. I was able to talk with other women and learn tools on how to cope, and rebuild my life. There is hope–Stay strong.

Blessings ~ EJ Perth, PMA Intl.USA Regional Director, Healing & Prayer Network Administrator

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Amber Alert: 2 Lodi children missing after mother fatally stabbed/ New Jersey News

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http://abclocal.go.com/wabc/story?section=news/local/new_jersey&id=9533212
LODI (WABC) — An Amber Alert for two children who were taken from a Lodi school Friday after their mother was found fatally stabbed, has been canceled.

Anthony Jordan, 7, and 8-year-old Nicholas Jordan were found safe following a massive search in five states. Police said their father, John Jordan, took them from their elementary school in Lodi and has been arrested.

The boys’ mother, 39-year-old Tracy Jordan was found dead in the home she shared with her two sons on 222 Garibaldi Ave., in Lodi. She had reportedly been trying to divorce the suspect.

Around 5:20 p.m. Friday, Lodi Police officers responded to Tracy Jordan’s home after receiving a call from a concerned family member. Police found her dead with multiple stab wounds, according to a statement from the Bergen County Prosecutor’s Office.

Investigators learned that John Jordan, who was estranged from his wife, had picked the two boys up at Wilson School under false pretenses, the statement said. He traveled in the victim’s car to South Carolina where, according to the Bergen County Prosecutor’s Office, he has relatives.

He was arrested around 12:45 a.m. Saturday when he arrived at a family member’s home in Greenville. The children were found safe in the car. Jordan has been charged with murder and he will be extradited to New Jersey.

In Lodi, Ralph Dejulia, the victim’s boyfriend, said Friday night that he grew worried when Tracy Jordan didn’t pick up her phone all day.

“This has happened in the past  he [John Jordan] was abusive toward her, and it came to this,” said Dejulia.

The Lodi Police Department, as well as the Bergen County Sheriff and prosecutor’s offices, were part of the investigation.

New Jersey State Police have canceled additional Amber Alerts in Virginia, West Virginia, North Carolina and South Carolina.

The Associated Press contributed to this report.

MIGHTY/ Lisa-joe Baker

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There are those who say that this is ordinary. But don’t let that fool you. “Mother” will always be the bravest, least ordinary, most difficult and utterly challenging career that anyone ever hopes to lay claim to.
While others might hear, “diaper-changer, food-maker, car-pooler, bottle-washer, laundry-doer, sweat pants-wearer, life-on-hold” wanna be doing anything else woman, the Truth, whether it feels like it some days or not, is that you are in fact a shelter from the storm.
You are a Cape of Good Hope.
You are a warrior who will battle for your children’s hearts, souls, attention, innocence, education and memories.
Go to battle my friends. This is your time.
We will hold strong on either side of you. We will pray over those bottles, through the dark watches of the night, when doubt comes and children break, when adults fail them, when they push and push as hard against us as that day we delivered them into the world we. will. not. be broken.
We may ache and see cracks tear through our hearts, but we will get up again tomorrow and load the clothes and the words that need to be said. Again and again and again.
And when the world tries to claw at them, to break them, to smash the beauty in them, may our walls hold true. May the lessons we’ve told, the truths we’ve lived, the life we’ve spoken into them come back easily, predictably, with wash and repeat ease.
Kingdom business. Jesus work. This shaping of souls. This raising tiny humans.
There are those that say that this is ordinary. Don’t buy that for a second.
Mighty. You are mighty, because you mother.

– See more at: http://lisajobaker.com/2013/10/you-are-mighty-because-you-mother/#sthash.1XmfG1em.dpuf

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY !

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This is for all the Protective Mothers with empty arms and hurting hearts who are missing their children every second of every day, but who are deeply hurting this weekend- Mothers Day weekend. Know that no matter what, you ARE your children’s mother. No one -and certainly no court- can take away this God-given role in your children’s lives. Please know this in your heart. PMA INTL. celebrates you, Protective Mom, and deeply understands the unconditional love and heroic sacrifices you have made to protect your children from abuse and harm. You are modern day heroes, and PMA INTL strongly believes that you will go down in history as such. PMA INTL loves and supports you and your precious children now and forever. You are always in are hearts. Happy Mothers Day!

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Caught Between Parents Supporting children through the challenges of divorce by Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.

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http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/caught-between-parents/201105/word-mothers-you-can-lose-your-children-parental-alienation

As mother’s day approaches I want to take a moment to unequivocally state that yes mothers even good mothers can lose their children to parental alienation. One common myth that seems to be “out there” in the world is that parental alienation is something that only happens to fathers and that mothers, because they tend to have residential custody and because (the theory goes) the courts are biased against fathers, rarely lose their kids this way. While no one has data about the exact gender break down, I can say that without a doubt some mothers do and have been victimized in this way. I believe that part of why this is not talked about as much as fathers’ experiences of parental alienation is that mothers who do lose their kids this way are overcome with shame and humiliation and tend to not want to go public with their story. In my conversations with targeted mothers a common theme is that they perceive other people as thinking that they must have done something wrong for their child to reject them. Many stay silent for this reason, to avoid being blamed and shamed. Another complicating factor is that many women’s rights group denounce the existence of parental alienation, claiming that it is a fabricated problem designed to hurt mothers. Thus, women seeking support and guidance from these groups may be given the message that they are mistaken and/or must stay silent. It is time for targeted mothers to go public and be open about their experience, and make it clear that it is possible to be both a feminist and a victim of parental alienation. I strongly believe that the more people talk about this problem, the more likely it is that it can be prevented and treated. Too often custody cases get bogged down in whether the problem is real rather than focusing on how to resolve the alienation and help heal parent child relationships. In my experience an alienating parent needs three things: (1) motive to undermine the child’s relationship with the other parent, (2) access to the child, and (3) skillful use of alienation strategies. These are not the sole purview of either gender.

On father’s day I will certainly acknowledge the risks and concerns that they contend with concerning parental alienation. In the meantime, I encourage all parents (mothers and fathers) to become educated about parental alienation, to help create awareness in their community, and to work towards improving prevention, intervention, and treatment of this terrible form of child abuse.

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