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PMA INTL. STATEMENTS:
PMA INTL wants to be very clear that other protective mothers are being targeted for abuse by the same individuals targeting PMA INTL. This is NOT just about PMA INTL but about protecting all protective mothers from abusive advocates within the Mothers’ Movement.
PMA INTL wants to be very clear that there is no” bickering, ” “in fighting”,” arguing” “war” or any other word that might imply mutuality about this AMPP issue. This is a common misconception about this sad situation. This is a very clear case of abuser and target This is the epitome of cyber bullying. PMA never responds in kind to these attacks, PMA in no way initiates these attacks. Understand these attacks have been going on for four years. PMA does not create hate sights targeting protective mothers for abuse. Abusers wishing to escape responsibility for the abuse perpetrated on their victim put out this misleading language. Has PMA RESPONDED a few times to defend and correct the libel put forth? Yes, we have; a few times. But for the large part we have remained silent on the issue and there is no proof of us responding in kind. This is a VERY IMPORTANT distinction that must be made. Also; because of PMA’s no abuse zone policy we do not work with abusers. This is why we do not work with AMPP and supporters/ colleagues We are in a movement FIGHTING abuse,( all forms of abuse) not CONDONING it.You cannot “negotiate” with an abuser, you cannot “bridge the gap” with an abuser; Moms have you tried to do this with your exes? How did this work out for you? We must be careful not to use the same language and mind set about the dynamics of abuser and victim as the family courts have used on us to excuse the abuse and the abuser. We must be careful not to victim blame. We must not be hypocrites as our credibility depends on us ” walking our talk” As moms we have already experienced this victim blaming with our abuser exes and family court. We must learn from our experiences and not continue the pattern and the cycle of abuse.
Hearing an accusation about PMA, Janice or Lundy ? ASK THE ACCUSER FOR PROOF if you want to know the truth. Please do not accuse anyone without proof. Gossip is dangerous. Currently, several Protective Mothers are being abused ( not just PMA), with libel and cyber bullying. Some “advocates” in the movement are supporting the abusers by promoting and working with them , staying silent, victim blaming, excusing their abuse, attempting to silence victim’s voices and more. Please stand up for what is right. Do not stay silent ASK FOR PROOF. Tell the abuser to stop!!! Hold abusers accountable. Help protective moms from being re-victimized. If you are a new protective mom looking to join a group be very very cautious, as certain advocates and groups may not be what they appear to be.
Some tips for your safety
1. Look for a no abuse zone policy posted on their website. But look for PROOF of adherence to this policy by investigating the contents of their past posts.
2.Look into past posts to see if they supported AMPP or Claudine
3. If so, look to see if a post denouncing AMPP and Claudine’s behavior was or is posted anywhere.( per Lundy’s request )
If you do not see proof of above be cautious in believing their rhetoric and be very cautious in giving out your personal info to them.A little bit of work in looking back on the advocates/ groups’ history of posts on the internet can go a long way in protecting yourself, your family court case, and your children along with keeping you and your family safe.
For further information on safety tips for protective moms please visit our post ( link below)
Let’s treat each other with kindness, respect and love. Protective Mothers’ have been through so much. Best to you all, and Thank you for your support. Stay safe.