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Robin McGraw and Dr. Phil Explain The Groundbreaking New App Called ASPIRE News

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Robin introduces a groundbreaking new app for smart phones that could save your life or the life of someone you love. The app is called ASPIRE News, and it’s a major development in domestic violence safety.

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August 27, 2015 at 1:14 am

Steps to Safety After a PPO- When it’s time to escape, make sure to have a plan/ domestic

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About 20% of abuse victims file for a personal protection order, or PPO, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Issued by a civil court, a PPO forbids a person from doing something, such as contacting you, coming on to your property or harassing you at work. It allows the survivor to press charges should their abuser not obey the order.

While this piece of paper alone cannot guarantee stalking behavior will end (roughly half of PPOs are violated by the abuser), it can still be important to get one, since many abusers do respect the orders. Should an abuser violate the order, however, they can face fines or jail time. It is important to note that a PPO should be a part of a larger safety plan, and should not be replied upon singularly. offers some safety strategies for that are smart for anyone escaping an abusive situation to follow.[1]

Safety After Escaping Violent Relationships

Stop all contact with your abuser. Responding to this person’s actions could reinforce or encourage his or her behavior.

Keep any evidence of stalking, such as voicemails, texts or emails for future court cases.

Always keep a cell phone with you and don’t hesitate to call 911 if you feel you are in danger.

Have a safe place to go in an emergency such as a police station, public area or the home of a friend of family member that is unknown to your harasser.

If you feel like someone is following you, it’s not a good idea to go home.

Let your coworkers, friends, neighbors and apartment building personnel know about your situation. Give them as much information as you can about the person who is harassing you including a photograph of him or her and a description of their vehicle. Ask them to call the police if they see this person at your home or place of work.

Try not to go places alone. Ask someone to walk to your car, vary your routes to places you regularly visit and get an exercise buddy to go with you if you walk or jog outside.

Report all incidents and threats to the police as soon as they occur. Keep a log of everything that’s happening including the name of the officer in charge of the case and the crime reference number, if there is one. This can all come in useful for future court dates.

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April 30, 2015 at 10:41 pm

Domestic Violence Doesn’t Take a Holiday /

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Survivors can face an increased risk during the holiday season

This year, as you hang the twinkling lights and decorate your mantel with sprigs of holly, remember that not everyone has gotten the message that it’s a season of peace. Unfortunately, the holidays can be an even more dangerous time than normal for those at risk for domestic violence.

From the financial stress of gift buying to an overall increase in alcohol consumption, to a flurry of emotions—and sometimes stress—that accompany a plethora of family togetherness time, there are many reasons why the chance of intimate partner violence can increase during the holidays. While there is no national study to measure the exact stats on holidays and domestic violence, says The National Resource Center on Domestic Violence, they do point out that law enforcement agencies in many cities have noted more domestic violence reports on New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day than on other days.

However, The National Domestic Violence Hotline reports a decrease in calls—nearly 53 percent fewer—on Thanksgiving Day and Christmas Day. Whether survivors don’t want to disturb family cohesiveness on these days, or can’t find a private time to make a call for support, advocates say the decline isn’t necessarily an indication that violence ceases on these days, reporting that calls will often increase above normal levels the days and weeks following a holiday. Many times, say advocates, survivors of abuse don’t want to disturb family rituals or separate children from their family during a holiday, regardless of abuse that may be occurring.

What can you do? If you’re currently in a violent relationship, reach out to domestic violence nonprofit, The National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); it is available 24/7. And, remember, you don’t need to figure out an escape plan right away—you can simply call to talk. Or if you like reading first, there are many short articles covering domestic violence topics on this site. If you can’t call safely from home, call from a trusted friend’s house, your doctor’s office or a public library.

If you suspect someone in your life is the victim of an abusive relationship, watch for red flags, such as possessiveness, rigid gender roles, and overt control of deliberately humiliating one’s partner in front of others. To support a victim, The Hotline advises friends and family members be non-judgmental and supportive. “Don’t tell them what they need to do. Don’t badmouth the abuser. It’s also important to remember that friends and family should take precautions to make sure they remain safe. Sometimes when word gets back to the abuser that a friend or family member is offering advice or asking questions about the abuse, they could be putting themselves in danger.”

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December 17, 2014 at 4:34 am

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